There is no dating manual out there. Everyone is different and you sort of just stumble around until you find a way that works for you. But even when you find that way, there’s no guarantee that you’ll end up getting lucky and finding someone who matches what you do. You could be dating the wrong way for all you know. Luckily we’re here to tell you some of the most common dating don’ts so that you can see if you’re doing any of them. Most guys don’t even realize that they’re actually turning women off by doing seemingly innocent things.
Talking About Yourself Too MuchOkay this is one that guys generally tend to be at least a little bit aware of. We are our own favorite people, so of course we’re going to talk about ourselves. That’s fine, it’s when you take it too far and only talk about yourself is the problem. You have to be prepared to ask her questions and actively lead the conversation back to her. It’s a balance that can be hard to maintain if you’re not paying attention. The easy fix is to match her questions one to one. Every time you say something about yourself turn the question to her and really listen to her answer.
You’re Just Too Factual
Guys often think of a level of facts. They only know the answers to a question in the form of a true (or not so true) fact about themselves. “I work in a bakery. I go to the gym. I like to play video games.” These are all very robotic ways of trying to give her information about yourself. If she can’t get more than that out of you she isn’t going to feel comfortable, and that’s not going to get you another date. Instead of saying everything that way, try to follow it up with why you like your job or your hobbies. “I’ve always loved baking, so when the chance came to work at Baker’s Bakery I took it. I’ve been there ever since. What about you? What do you like about your job?” Notice at the end of the sentence the question was turned around so that she can have a chance to talk. Always remember to keep her included.
If you find your date sexy, then tell her that with an appropriate comment. If you’re letting your hands do the talking then you’re going to get into trouble. Women love to feel sexy, but if you’re using your hands to touch her in borderline inappropriate places then she’s going to feel violated, not sexy. At the end of a first or second date the most that you should go for is a kiss. That’s only if you feel like there was a great connection, even. Other than that keep your hands to yourself. Getting sexual too soon only makes her feel objectified, so if you’re interested in seeing her again you’ll keep them to yourself.